racquetball… and even though I’ve had two
knee replacements, I’m very fortunate and can
still play once a week. But one of the men we play with,
George has reached that time of life where his game
has lessened. It has gotten to the point where, when
he is on the court, everyone has to hold their game
back substantially. It has been difficult. The other
people have played with George for years, many more
than I, but no one could bring themselves to speak with
of the players were actively trying not to get on the
court with him. So on Monday, when this situation persisted,
I gave up the game and asked to speak with him.
always difficult to try to share hard information with
someone. But George and I have a good relationship,
so we were able to talk openly.
was relieved. He said that he had noticed that something
was wrong but that nobody would tell him what it was.
We spoke for a while, planning what could be done. I
told him I’d play singles with him to see if he
could regain his foot speed and so on, and he was very
happy for the invitation.
we went back to the others, explained the outcome (George
decided that he would play with a group of older people,
and then with us, if the occasion arose). Just when
it was going to be my time to play, George looked at
me and said he’d like to talk a little more some
time. So we did immediately, letting the others play.
It became a moment of understanding and mutual gratitude,
for he had truly been a gentleman throughout the discussion.
saw George a few days later, playing with the other
group. He was happy.
fact, both groups were happy because each could fully
play. And I was grateful to be involved in a spirituality
which leads us to build bridges by communicating, especially
in difficult situations..
Dugan, Hyde Park, New York